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In Part 2 of “From the Whiteboard,” we discussed the importance of practicing and illustrating humility, saying “no” when it means seeking God’s version of good for your child, and reigniting your sense of wonder while playing with your child. Today, we will discuss encouraging your child to be more like Jesus.
Part 3: MODEL HOW TO WALK IN THE WAY
As you embrace this sense of wonder, reflect on the wondrous miracle of humanity and relationships, and model for your child how to include others. Nothing hurts me more as a teacher than to watch students of any age intentionally exclude others, especially if that exclusion is based on superficial ideas. Avoid showing favoritism, and pay attention to how you treat your own peers because your kids will emulate you (James 2:1-5).
Loving others without assumptions will lead your child in a way that is counter to this world. If your child wants to be a rebel, you’re in luck. The most rebellious thing a person can do is act like Christ. Christ didn’t fit anyone’s mold; he was single-minded in his pursuit of the Father’s will, and it led to a countercultural lifestyle, yet one without sin (Heb. 4:15). Helping your child follow Christ is to help them walk in opposition to how the world walks, to be in the minority. That walk will be full of temptation, but if your child wants to lead a truly rebellious lifestyle, then model how to serve like Jesus, how to forgive like Jesus, how to remain self-controlled like Jesus, and how to love like Jesus. Then teach your child to encourage those who are also trying to walk in the Way, for they mightily need encouragement.
A righteously rebellious spirit is helped by discourse filtered through a biblical lens. Be willing to talk with your child about everything. Students young and old have asked me about every topic that crosses their minds: angels and demons, heaven, death, relationships, grades, work, money, the gospel…and the list goes on. Just because your child doesn’t approach a topic at home doesn’t mean they aren’t thinking about it. Observe your child’s emotions and questions. They may subtly test the waters to see which subjects you feel comfortable discussing, and perhaps you feel rather uncomfortable with certain topics. Maybe you don’t know what you believe about others. Then find out. Some of the most important conversations are the most awkward ones (i.e. sharing the gospel). If you don’t know the answer to your child’s questions, be honest. Do some research. Visit with someone who might know the answer, showing your child how to ask and learn from those who are wiser than us. Let God’s Word provide you wisdom and discernment. God has insight for everything we need in His Word; lean on it when navigating how to raise His kids (Eph. 6:4, 2 Tim. 3:16-17, 1 John 4:1). They are worth the effort.
Well, the bell has rung, and I am sending your students home to you. I eagerly exhort you to help with the homework by pursuing a deepening relationship with God so you can enjoy deepening relationships with your children.
